SO I know the 12 days of Christmas starts on the 25th, but Iâm different over here and weâre starting earlyâŚplus I love a little treat (chocolate advent calendars all year 'round, anyone?). So Iâm giving you the 12 days of Tip-mas full of bite size dating tips to keep our relationships and crushes going until the holiday itself.
TIP NUMBER 1:
One shall be good with themself before dating others
Ask yourself the question âwould you date you?â before getting out there to date others. If youâre trying to embark on dating adventures, the answer here should be a resounding âhell yes!â Being good with yourself brings even more good to the date and everyoneâs dating experiences.
Being in a good headspace provides a lot of stability on the rollercoaster that is datingâdating is a rollercoaster in the ride itself and the toll it takes on your emotions (which happens a lot unfortunatelyâŚwomp). A healthy relationship with yourself is the most respectful thing you can do to make sure the dating pool doesnât get pee in it. Gotta give respect to get respect and just make dating a good place.
SO, aim for stability with yourself to get what youâre seeking. Dating throws a lot of curveballs and tbhâ there are more than enough to knock us down here and there. Being in a stable place anchors us by being more comfortable with ourselves and standing up for what we want, reduces pressure on needing a relationship, helps us set necessary boundaries, and gives us the clarity to see those curveballs as lessons we walk away from. You win some, you learn someâam I right? (Iâm killing it with the sports references here!)
But really though, stability helps us gain a better sense of confidence to realize you are all you ::actually:: need and that a partner should bring more to the equation. You can decide what âmoreâ means. For me that means: joy, fun, humor, support and maybe a little treat. If itâs giving you anything that makes you feel anxious, bad, or in dangerârun! That will only bring you down and a healthy relationship with yourself and another person is the winning combo.
xoxo,
cv
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Love this tip! Stability is the foundation for our best selves! So important to bring that into our dating.