SO I know yesterday was about stability, but today Iâm going to pull a 180 and tell you to embrace chaos. Yeah, chaos may get a bad rep, but Iâm here to tell you it doesnât have to be stressful nor toxic. Itâs more about embracing the positive qualities chaos brings to benefit you and your relationships.
TIP NUMBER 2:
Embrace Chaos
On (chaotic) fun
Spontaneity and creativity come first to mind here. A cancelled reservation that forces you to hastily make a new plan in a neighborhood you have yet to discover? Snagging tickets to a random show youâve never heard of? A conversation that turns into an off-the-cuff date with someone you started talking to 5 minutes ago? Getting creative with limits or being limitless with your creativity lead to more excitement with dating. You know what else comes to mind? Doing it for the plot. Trying something different (or ridiculous/thrilling/silly) or meeting someone out of the ordinary opens you up to a lot moreâand hey, you may even like it!
On (chaotic) resilience
You know when youâre thrown into a telling situation and you think âoh, this builds characterâ because it seems really, really hard at the time? But you diligently work your way through it smiling through the pain no matter how insane it is to ultimately laugh it off later on. Chaos takes many forms and oftentimes itâs a challenge throwing a wrench in a routine or destroying something you once thought was good. Moments like these definitely test you, and working your way through them build both strength and emotional resilienceâand that also helps you recognize the good and the bad, and who may actually seem worth your time pursuing.
On (chaotic) growth
Going on good, bad, and ugly dates is all part of the process of dating. You never know who youâre going to meet and what ::weird:: stuff might happenâso grow with it when you ::go through it::. Approaching chaotic situations with grace, a calm mind, and positive mindset helps you grow in ways like: adopting and recognizing healthy boundaries, navigating conversations with confidence, adapting to situations, and handling people with care, and just flat out being a better person. To walk away from a chaotic date learning something about yourself and your preferences is
What do all these things have in common? Authenticity. Authenticity shows up best in moments of chaos. The raw moments when youâre thrown into something unexpected is the best opportunity to go off script and show the real you and capture how your partner handles themself as well. Beyond the surface, together you connect in deeper ways that wouldnât necessarily have brought up in a normal situation. That forms an even stronger bond (and I bet youâll even get some great inside jokes out of it). #BeAuthentic, everyone!
(just casually embracing chaotic energy here)
xoxo,
cv
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