TIP NUMBER 3:
Lighten Up
As the joker famously said, âwhy so serious?â And heâs actually ::kinda right::. Dating today has become very serious in the most un-serious way that we all just need to lighten up on our approaches and how we feel about dating.
something serious
Weâre dating too seriously in that we expect a lot from strangers (essentially). Going into a date to check-every-box and interview a suitor for marriage always sets you up for disappointment and ultimatelyâfailure. Nobody is perfect and if you think youâre going to find that on date #1, youâre a lil silly. Youâre not going to download their whole life history and predict the future over a drink nor a five course meal. But hereâs what what you can expect: a good time, maybe a chapter from their life, and respect. You want it all? See them again
something un-serious
Now for those who etch âlooking for someone who doesnât take life too seriously!â in their dating profiles, I roll my eyes hard because even they donât know what that means. Youâre probably thinking, âthese people are doing the most with your âlighten upâ advice.â While true, Iâm shelling advice for you and me to remember even as a dater searching for partnership, we need to lighten up and not get upset over these types of daters. Theyâre not in the same season of life looking for their partner and you gotta respect that. Theyâre just living their lives figuring out what they need/want, and in a wayâgood for them! Hats off to that journey dating a lot of different people to find what theyâre actually looking for in a relationshipâeven if that includes a hoe-phase because weâve all been there!
On both occasions here, youâll come to find thereâs more to people than what you see in their profiles and on the first dateâit just takes time and patience. You canât expect to see everything you that you want right away (thatâs a lot of pressure!), so going in with a lighter attitude can surprise you. And yes, queens and kings, you deserve it allâI am by no means not saying that!
Now, go look at some holiday lights!
xoxo,
cv
Song of the day:
âYou canât expect to see everything you that want right awayâ
Should say: âYou canât expect to see everything that you want right awayâ