TIP NUMBER 4:
Lead with love
I know I really try to stay optimistic here, but Iâve gotta be honest, the last few days were really hard for me. Ever been involved with someone youâre excited about and they pull a 180? Welp, thatâs where Iâm at and WOW, I feel down. And, lol if that person is reading thisâya gurl is sad! I really gotta stop adding lolâs to things Iâm actually not ::actually:: lolling at. (2024 goals.)
SO, Iâm here to tell you to lead with love no matter whatâin both the good and the bad times. That means honesty, vulnerability, kindness, and just being a good fuckinâ person to the people you match with, are interested in, or involved with. Itâs easy to feel and display these things when relationships are going swimmingly so this is your reminder to show some love right now (like 1,2,3, go do something cute!). And if youâre trying to play it cool, be a lil âun-coolâ and do something sweet. (How I just rolled my eyes at that sentence!).
But heyâwhen times are not-so-good, you show love too. Dating is hard enough as it is with people playing games, toying with emotions, being jaded, not being clear with intentions, ghostingâyou name it. All these terrible things really do make people lose hope in one of the best feelings ever, and that itself is heart breaking. We literally donât need another reason to feel bad especially when you have a connection with someone. Before you think about shelling a neg, bullying, manipulating, poking fun, or being flat out meanâjust donât! The cool thing to do is to have a conversation with how youâre feeling first. Working things out and understanding why someone feels the way they do is the loving thing to do. Thereâs so much to feel bad about in the world, and losing hope in someone great just sucksâespecially if you canât have a conversation about it. So get on the same page talk that shit out!
xoxo,
cv
Song of the day:
(this one always makes me feel better when Iâm down)